“Why aren’t you married?”

I’ve been asked that question a million times.

At some point during one of those million times I decided it is something I’ll never ask anyone.  It assumes a lot of things.  It assumes that a person wants to get married, or marriage is something everyone needs to do, or that some how it is in our hands to make marriage happen.  Many times it is asked with a certain suspicion, “Why isn’t he married?  There must be something wrong with him …”.  People do not seem sensitive to the fact that many girls want to get married, but nobody has asked them.  Or that many guys want to get married, but have been unceremoniously dumped by girls they loved.  The question is insensitive, I’ve decided, and let’s be honest – if we did answer the question with truth, I fear the person who asked it would get a certain “don’t tell me the long story” look on their face.  They really don’t care – at least that has been my experience. 

When asked, I would just smile and ask, “Why aren’t you a millionaire?” or “Why aren’t you skinnier?”  (Just kidding about that one … I don’t want them reciprocating the question to me!)  But over the years, I have become diplomatic - very able to deftly smile and change the topic.

SO … after many years of knowing some day I would get married, but understanding and living with the timing of God and the freewill of women, it seems weird to me to announce that I will be getting married.  But I will.

I don’t know why now, and not earlier, other than I finally found a girl who loved me too.  And it seems trivial to say that she said yes, but she did, and it’s not .. not to me anyway.  If you want to get the scoop, then please go visit www.stepintolove.com and read our stories, see pics, and sign our guestbook cuz we’d be honored to have you comment.  Smile.